The Sex and the City series is a love affair between a woman and her city. Carrie Bradshaw always adored New York regardless of what it had in store for her. Street crime, public urination, a surprise book deal, trips down Fifth Avenue — all comprised the good, bad and ugly of the city that Carrie was devoted to so wholly and completely. I have exactly that sort of relationship with New York, in which I mostly love it but kind of hate it too (a terrible commute being only one reason). The Sex and the City movie reminds us that everything we love — man, woman, city — requires a certain amount of compromise.
After 10 years of coaxing Mr. Big toward commitment and having succeeded in that venture for the past four, Carrie is left stranded yet again, this time at the altar. Throughout the show and the movie, Big always symbolized New York as it treats single women: Flashy, attractive and charming, he can turn on you at any second. One moment he’s sweeping you off your feet and the next you’re screaming and throwing things at him in rage over a cold, offensive comment. You can’t stop loving him even though he’ll probably never love you back. In that sense, it’s only logical that Big flipped out and ditched his fiancée at the stairs of their wedding venue, the New York Public Library. The city might just betray you the same way tomorrow.
In true love, though, forgiveness follows betrayal. After almost a year, Carrie realizes that there is only so much that one person can give another, and Big couldn’t bear the pomp and circumstance that Carrie thought their wedding required. Carrie, as it turns out, didn’t need it anyway. There’s a certain equilibrium between two parties that must be achieved for a relationship to work, especially when one of those involved is New York City. Big and New York are exciting, encouraging and charming, but neither are God. They cannot be everything at once and when we push (like when I applied to numerous jobs at once) they shove us right back into place (like when I was rejected by most of those jobs). Considering the oddities that we witness every day, at least we know that New York, in its generosity, will accept our flaws as well.