City life is fun. Sure, it’s also challenging, expensive and sometimes a pain in the ass, but why would we subject ourselves to that if there wasn’t some kind of trade-off? Cities are full of restaurants, bars, museums, parks, bowling alleys, arcades and any combination of these things you can think of. It seems you can’t pick up a magazine, turn on the TV, or even walk down the street without being inundated by the newest, hippest things to do in the city. The problem comes when it turns into a second job trying to keep up with all the fun and excitement.
When living in a city, there tends to be a fear of missing out. The idea that somewhere, somehow, people are out there having an amazing time while you’re at home, eating your grilled chicken breast, completely oblivious is always in the back of our minds. The truth, though, is that you can make your own fun. Often, the pressure to live it up in the city gets in the way of actually living our lives the way we want to. I may live in the “City That Doesn’t Sleep,” but I’m no good to anyone without eight hours. Maybe it’s because I’m getting older and am (almost) married, but the things that are supposed to be fun in a city — like closing down a bar at 4 a.m. or waiting in line to eat at the trendy new restaurant — aren’t my idea of a great time anymore. What I’ve learned over the years is that fun is subjective. The best time I have all week could be blasting the Pitch Perfect soundtrack and cleaning my apartment. Other times, it’s spending a night making dinner with Cole and talking at our kitchen table for hours.
Maybe your idea of fun is a shopping spree. Or maybe it’s going to see a movie the night it opens. Whatever you do, make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons. There is enough pressure to get the right job, the right apartment and the right clothes. The last thing any of us needs is to feel that kind of pressure when we’re trying to relax. If it’s a Saturday night and all you really feel like doing is eating ice cream in your pajamas and watching cable, don’t feel guilty. The city will still be there tomorrow, and there’s always more fun just around the corner.